“A question about Gate 59-6. It’s something that bothers me. It sounds intense — and maybe it isn’t that big right now — but I’m searching for the right balance. People share all sorts of things with me. They come ‘close’. Closer than I would expect in a connection. The way I’m experiencing it now, it takes a lot of energy. How can I find a good balance without being drained by the stories others share with me? I find it difficult to set boundaries in that. It feels like one-way traffic.”
Answer:
Gate 27 — The Gate of Caring — can be a trap for you.
Because this gate bridges your Split Definition, you may feel an unconscious pressure to care for others more than is truly correct for you. But this doesn’t come from your essence. Caring for others only serves you when it flows from the life of your Design.
And in your case, that life is rooted in Emotional Authority — with “playing hard to get” as its foundation. But since your intuition and emotions are split from each other in the moment, the tendency is strong to react impulsively — and to think that caring for others means listening to all their stories.
Also, your Channel of Intimacy can send a false signal to others, as if you’re open and eager to hear their emotional sharing. This can attract a lot of projection.
That’s why it’s essential to remember:
You are here to hold people off until you no longer feel nervous about it.
Until your emotional clarity has settled.
The right people will come back.
Those who can’t handle being “pushed away” were never correct for you in the first place — because they don’t accept that you are someone who needs time.
